ADHD Success: It’s not all about grades

ADHD Success: It’s not all about grades

 “I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself.”  ― Rita Mae BrownMany high school and college students have a lot of worry, anxiety and even depression because they aren’t sure what they want to do with their lives, and it’s no wonder.  Finding your place in the world is an important part of been a teen and young adult. Add ADHD into the mix and you’ve probably experienced feeling like something’s wrong with you at least at one time or another (frequently even). After all, having a disability like ADHD can make you feel like you don’t fit in.

Do you ever look around you and feel jealous of other students who seem to be more successful than you? You know the ones: they have better grades, they have more friends, they always know the answer when called on in class, or they have an amazing body. It’s easy to feel low when you compare yourself to others. If you don’t believe us, check out the findings of this study on self esteem and college freshmen from University of Michigan’s Jennifer Crocker:

College students who base their self worth on external sources – including parental approval, academic performance, and personal appearance — reported more problems such as stress, relationship problems, drug and alcohol abuse and even eating disorders.

Yet most students (65% or higher) based their self worth on academic competence, their family’s support and approval, or doing “better” than others.

College students who focused on academic performance for their self worth did not receive higher grades even though they reported being motivated and studying more than other students. However, students who based their self-esteem on internal sources – for example personal goals and moral standards – received higher grades and were less likely to have other problems such as drug and alcohol abuse.

My research shows that when you make your self-esteem contingent on something other than your basic value as a human being, it’s not a good thing, even if the source of your self-esteem is something as praise-worthy as getting good grades,” Crockett advises.

We suggest shifting your focus away from yourself and what others think, and instead pointing your intention to making your values part of your daily activities.  Ask yourself: what are my goals for my life? What do I want to contribute to the world? What can I create today that will give me joy?

Not sure what the answers are to these questions? Your Edge Coach can help figure it out and help keep on track to accomplishing your goals.

What keeps you going each day? What do you value in yourself?

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